Don't Be Afraid To Live The Life Of Your Dreams

It's easy to continue to do things that make you unhappy just because you're caught up in the routine of doing them, despite how they make you feel.  A perfect example is staying in a job that doesn't fulfil your wants and aspirations, just because it's convenient.

I know it's easier said than done but it feels great to be brave enough to change your lifestyle and start doing more of the things that you want to do in life.  Please don't allow yourself to be pressured into living the kind of life that most people around you live, just because it's the 'normal' way of living. This is your life and you have the power and ability to live the life of your dreams. 

We all have dreams and in order to achieve them, we'll need to take risks. Although taking risks can be scary, it can also be thrilling and adds to the excitement of life. If you've always dreamt of living in a certain place, or working in a certain career, take that risk and start planning how you are going to make that change. Don't worry about what people around you think if you know that making the change will be healthy for you and will make you the happiest you've ever been.  

If you don’t feel confident enough to make big changes straight away, then you can start by making small ones. For example, if you want to start a new job, start researching the qualifications you will need in order to work in that position. Then you can take a step further and start searching for places that offer the opportunity to gain those qualifications. Then you can go even further by making a plan of how and when you can start taking those qualifications. After this, you can continue to do new things that take you steps closer to achieving your dream. Another example is if you've been wanting to move to a different country but you’re too nervous to, start researching the area you want to live in and the steps you'd need to take before moving there.

Actually doing things that take you closer to achieving your dreams allows you to accept that your dreams are becoming your reality and shows you that you can definitely achieve them.

I hope this post has helped you, please let me know if it has!

Love, Chey x

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Promoting Positivity: 5 Steps To Kick Start A Healthier You by Tara Stiles

Last year, I became more passionate about living a healthier lifestyle and I can definitely feel the great effects of this now. However, I still feel

like I have a long way to go in terms of getting healthier. That’s why I sighed with relief when I came across ‘5 Steps To Kick Start A Healthier You’ by Tara Stiles, I knew that I had to read it as soon as I saw the title of the article!

The article includes 5 tips on how to live a healthier lifestyle, from meditation to rule-making, all of which, I found very interesting and enlightening!

Click here to read the article, I hope you find it just as helpful as I have!

Love, Chey x

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Love Yourself!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

What’s your opinion on Valentine’s Day? Personally, even though I don’t make a big deal out of it, I do like that it’s a day that’s dedicated to spreading love and kindness to others. However, even though Valentine’s Day is traditionally known to be a day about showing love to your partner, I think that it’s just as important to show this love to yourself as well. Now of course, we don’t need to wait for Valentine’s Day to do this, this is something we can do every single day.

A lot of people talk about the importance of loving ourselves, which is great – but I’m sure that I can’t be the only person who has thought “Ok great, I’m going to start loving myself more! … but how?” Just saying that you’re going to love yourself more is simple, but when you think about what you can actually do to encourage this, it can become a lot more complicated. This might be because you’re just over-thinking it, like I was. I now understand that loving yourself is an on-going process that will progress throughout your life. Some days might be more challenging than others but that’s OK, it’s about the fact that you’re making the effort to pay attention to yourself and value the person that you are.

I believe that an important part of loving yourself is to get to know yourself. I like to consider that as people, we’re constantly developing and changing over time and it can be quite challenging to fully know who we are. However, everyone has different ideas of what it means to know themselves completely and whether it’s possible. In my view, knowing myself is about having a deep connection to my thoughts, emotions, behaviours and intentions in life.  What’s your perception of knowing yourself and do you think you know yourself completely?

I think that another important part of loving yourself is taking the time to fulfil your own wants and needs. It can be very easy to get caught up in everyday life and forget to dedicate time to yourself to do what you enjoy. However, I think that It’s crucial that you look after yourself as well as others, and remember that you deserve your time just as much as anybody else does.  Even if that means planning to dedicate a bit of time out of every day to go for a walk, eat your favourite meal, listen to your favourite music etc., this is a significant part of you valuing yourself and your importance, which I think is a huge part of loving yourself.

The final thing that I’ll talk about is the importance of looking to yourself for love instead of always looking to others. A lot of the time, when people don’t feel loved enough, they look for someone else to help fill that void for them. Is this something that you do or that you’ve done in the past? I definitely have.  I find it interesting that for so many people, our instant reaction to feeling a lack of love is to look for someone else to love us instead of looking back at ourselves for the love that we’re missing.  I think that depending on others to make you feel loved can be risky. Instead, thinking about why you don’t feel as loved as you’d like and working on addressing this can be more effective. Doing this can lead to you becoming more self-aware and appreciative, which also play a big part in loving yourself.

So, to end this post on a lovely note (< sorry, I had to!) I hope that you enjoy Valentine’s Day and you remember to show yourself and others an endless amount of love!

Love, Chey x

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Happy New Year! (2016) : What Will You Achieve In 2016?

Happy New Year!

As we enter each new year, I find that I always have the same two questions on my mind:

1.What did I achieve last year?


2.What will I achieve this year?

These two questions allow me to reflect back and appreciate the great times I experienced in the previous year as well as look forward to what will happen in the new year.

So my question to you is … What Will You Achieve In 2016? 

You may have something that you were working on in 2015, that you want to make bigger and better in 2016. Or perhaps you’d like to start a new job, or move to a different area.

I encourage you to write a list of the things that you’ll achieve this year and then look back at the list at the end of the year, I’m sure that you’ll have a huge smile on your face when you start ticking your achievements off.

Thanks for reading and I hope 2016 will be great for you!

Love, Chey x

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Daily Positive Quotes on PositiveThinkingWins' Instagram

Hey everyone!

I just wanted to let you know about Positive Thinking Wins' Instagram, where I am posting positive quotes daily! So if you want a dose of positivity every day, feel free to follow it! :D 

Click here to visit the page, I've put a couple of my posts below! 

Love, Chey x  

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Tips On How To Become Happier!: #4- Forgive

I've recently learnt the importance of letting go of past experiences that still cause you to feel negative in any way.  These experiences happened in the past, therefore, holding on to any negativity that they caused you is only doing damage to yourself.  The only thing that can make you start feeling better about them is if you allow yourself to let go.

Letting go is particularly important when it involves someone who has hurt you in the past. You may be waiting for them to apologise but what if this never happens? Will you be holding on to the negativity that they caused you forever? You may not be able to control other people's thoughts and  actions but you can definitely control yours. Therefore, if that apology is not on its way, try your best to accept that and let go of the situation because holding on to it won't bring you any good.

The amazing author Louise Hay taught me the importance of  truly forgiving others for their actions against you in her book 'You Can Heal Your Life'. This can be very difficult to do, and is something that I still struggle with but once you truly forgive someone, you feel so much better within yourself.   This may be challenging because sometimes the person that hurt you may not even feel that they did anything wrong. However, your forgiveness will help you. This is because holding anger against someone is hurting you the most, it is affecting your moods, which then affects your whole day. Forgiving them is a way of allowing yourself to feel better, and therefore, happier.

It can be difficult to know how to start forgiving someone. One thing that has helped me is trying to understand things from their point of view and accept that not everybody thinks the same as me. You can start doing this too by attempting to think of reasons why that person did what they did, even if you don't believe these reasons are justifiable. For example, if someone has betrayed you, try to think of the relationships that they've had with other people and whether they have been trustworthy. Consider that they may have never had a trustworthy relationship with anyone which could be a possible reason for their behaviour. I'm not saying to create excuses for them, it's simply a way of making the forgiveness process easier for you.

Also, do not feel afraid to forgive yourself for past mistakes that you've made. Nobody's perfect and everyone's done things that they feel they shouldn't have and many people continue to hold guilt about them every day. If you've done everything you can to try to put that situation right, then there's nothing else you can do and it's time to let go of the situation and forgive yourself.

Forgiveness involves releasing so much negativity from your life and replacing it with positivity and is bound to make you much happier within yourself.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post and that this series of posts have helped you! More posts in my 'Tips On How To Become Happier' series are coming up!

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Love, Chey x 

Tips On How To Become Happier!: #3- Be Grateful

You may not have everything you want in life but when you are grateful for the things you do have instead of dwelling on those you don't, life becomes much more enjoyable. 

Something I remind myself of when I'm not feeling in the best of moods is that things could always be worse. The fact that you are still alive and breathing is a fact that you should be grateful for because that means that there's time for situations in your life to improve.

We're all guilty of getting caught up and frustrated about little things such as having to wait longer than expected for the food you ordered or needing to re-schedule plans with a friend because they cancelled at the last minute. Something useful to practice when you find yourself doing this is thinking about what you are grateful for about the situation instead. For example, the fact that you can afford to order the food in the first place or that you have a friend to make plans with.  It's easy to become so used to having these things and forget that there are others who are desperate to have them too. 

When you focus on being grateful for everything in you life, you start to truly appreciate the life you have, which automatically leads you to becoming happier.

I hope you enjoyed reading this post and you have taken something from it! More posts in this 'Tips On How To Become Happier!' series are coming up! The next will be posted next Sunday :D Have a lovely week!

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Love, Chey  x